Your difficult relationship with your mother can continue to weigh on you. Even if you’ve been trying to let go for some time.
Coaching when old patterns still affect the way you live
You may notice that you still relate to your mother in many different ways. You keep trying to do the right thing, understand her, take her into account, or hope for a better relationship.
Or perhaps you’ve created more distance to protect yourself.
And yet, the relationship can still bring tension and unrest into your life. What you learned and experienced in this relationship earlier in life can continue to shape how you feel today, how you relate to others, and how much space you have left for yourself.
You carry a lot
You have your own life now. But the tension in your relationship with your mother doesn’t simply disappear. Sometimes it comes to the surface clearly, for example after contact or a meeting. At other times, it sits more quietly in the background.
You feel a lot, but checking in with how you’re really doing often comes second. You’ve learned to understand others, take their needs into account and carry responsibility. Probably from an early age.
As a result, it can be difficult to feel what you need today. You try to live up to expectations — both your own and those of others. Choosing yourself, letting go of control, and recognising and expressing your boundaries in time you might find difficult.
A lot on your mind
Your mind often keeps going. You think ahead, overthink and worry. You try to stay in control and do the right thing, but in the meantime you may increasingly feel like you’re just being carried along by life.
You often only notice it once you’ve already gone beyond your limits: through tension in your head, neck or back, feeling empty or overwhelmed, or simply feeling as though there’s no room for anything else.
Your deep longing
You don’t want your relationship with your mother to keep taking up so much of your energy. But letting go can feel complicated, sometimes even impossible. Loyalty, love, guilt or care may all play a part.
You long for more inner peace, lightness, and trust in yourself. For the feeling that you don’t always have to be on alert, think ahead, or carry everything.
What you long for
- •learning to relate to your mother differently
- •becoming more aware of what you need
- •recognising and expressing your boundaries sooner
- •less overthinking and more peace of mind
- •being more fully yourself, without constantly taking others into account
- •feeling lighter, freer and more at ease
When it becomes too much
You learned to keep going. And it has probably brought you a long way. But what once helped you keep going can eventually begin to wear you down.
When you’ve become used to putting yourself second and simply carrying on, it can be difficult to feel where your own boundaries lie. As a result, tension can continue to build up. You may become more tired, more easily overwhelmed, experience more physical symptoms, or notice that you can cope with less and less.
Your body often gives signals long before you acknowledge that it is too much. Don’t wait until your body forces you to stop.
There can be space for you: to pause and reconnect with yourself, to feel how you’re really doing, and to discover what you need.
“ True relaxation doesn’t come from control, but when your body feels safe enough to let go. ”
I recognise what you carry
I know the impact of a difficult relationship with my mother from the inside. I’ve experienced myself how an enmeshed relationship with your mother, and later also a complicated relationship with your father, can affect how you live, how you feel and how your body responds.
My own experience, together with my professional expertise, forms the foundation of my work. With an understanding of the interplay between mind, body and nervous system, I don’t only look at what is happening in your head. I also pay attention to what your body is telling you and to the old patterns that may still be at work.
I don’t know it for you. But I can often see where things get stuck and help make visible what is happening beneath the surface.
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Looking together
Together, we look at the patterns at play and at what you need. So that you can learn to recognise and express your boundaries sooner and experience more influence over the choices you make.
We also look at what is practical: what gives you more peace, energy and space? Which choices feel right for you? And what helps your body and nervous system settle again?
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Space to see
Sometimes you notice yourself automatically carrying on, even though something inside you is asking for attention.
I understand. I learned to do that too. It may once have been a way of keeping yourself going.
But learning to feel and reconnect with yourself — with how you’re really doing — matters deeply. Especially when there is ongoing relational tension in the background.
Together, we can see what may be difficult to see on your own. We make space to slow down, feel and become aware of what is happening. From there, you gain more insight into yourself and what matters to you.
This creates more lightness, and you can gradually feel more like yourself.
I’d be glad to stand beside you. You don’t have to carry this alone.
